Marilyn Writes

Marilyn MacGruder Barnewall began her career as a journalist with the Wyoming Eagle in Cheyenne. During her 20 year banking career, she wrote extensively for The American Banker, Bank Marketing Magazine, Trust Marketing Magazine, and other major industry publications. The American Bankers Association (ABA) published Barnewall’s Profitable Private Banking: the Complete Blueprint, in 1987. She taught private banking at Colorado University for the ABA and trained private bankers in Singapore.

Sunday, October 25, 2015




By Marilyn MacGruder Barnewall
October 25, 2015

Today’s feminists imitate male behavior and are threatened by women who enjoy being feminine while competing in the world of business which is dominated by rules and regulations created by male personalities that for so long dominated the world of business and politics.

Since women compete in what has always been a traditionally male domain, it seems logical to think the only way to get ahead is to adopt the male traits developed in the world's corporations by men who ran them with no female senior managers for so many years. In many ways, that’s true.

In my world, women have very strong traits uniquely their own. They should be highly valued by society and the business community. They would be if women started acting like their very strong, valuable feminine traits have value.

Because women emulate men and their male traits rather than exhibit feminine strengths in the world of business, real female potential lays dormant. It is difficult to earn respect for female strengths when women, by emulating males, compete from positions of weakness rather than strength. Male traits come naturally to men and are reflected in the business world they created over the centuries. Female traits come naturally to women -- and they are quite opposite male strengths. Existing business standards are filled with black and white arrows pointing to male strengths that represent the road to success. It would be pretty stupid for women to paint a new sign, right?

What can women bring to the business world that it currently lacks?

How about true compassion? Men tend to intellectualize it. Women feel it in their hearts and souls. How about intuition? How about gentility? Or common sense? How about an inbred-by-nature security drive? A real security need prevents people from making stupid short-term profit decisions which, in the long run, can ruin a company -- and a social order.

Security is a long-term thing, not something one achieves today that will come back and bite one in the backside a year from now -- like manufacturing faulty tires that kill people, then denying it even when the evidence is overwhelming.

“But,” you might say, “business isn’t compassionate. It doesn’t function on intuition. It isn’t gentile ... and, often it uses little common sense. And, you’ve said yourself, business is about managing risk, not eliminating it.” An absolutely accurate statement. AND THAT’S WHAT’S WRONG WITH BUSINESS – AND POLITICS!

Managing risk does not mean ignoring it. Ideally, it means pitting a totally competitive and high-risk nature against its totally security-driven opposite. It means pitting what comes naturally to men – competition – against what comes natural to women – a security drive. It provides intelligent balance. It is called yin and yang by the Chinese.

If men and women functioned in the world of business as true equals, a sense of risk management skills that come naturally to men would prevent the male tendency to become too competitive for a short-term gain by offsetting it with security drives, natural to women. Balance would result. Nature is balance in action.

Companies would be properly competitive. Volkswagen wouldn’t be paying billions of dollars in fines for lying about emissions and causing a scandal that will cause years of reputational repair, if women who displayed feminine rather than male traits had been involved in that corporate decision.

Males would be paying attention to short-term profits while security-conscious women ensured a positive long-term view of the future. You would not have a tire company denying that its tires kill people, then admitting that they do. You would not have a major U.S. auto manufacturer producing cars with gas tanks that explode, burning people to death. The feminine security-drive and sense of compassion would eliminate the need for costly corporate (and government) cover-ups. Tobacco companies would have admitted that nicotine is addictive far sooner than they did. Companies would not be cooking their books to falsely attract investor dollars to their stock offerings because in the long term, it always fails.

With women adopting male traits in the world of business and politics, the advantage corporations could gain from real feminism is lost.

Can you imagine the feminine strength of the need for security allowing Lehman Brothers to create the liar loan mortgage-backed derivative packages that has brought economies worldwide to dangerous levels of potential failure? I can’t.

Female politicians have, for the most part done the same thing women in the world of business have done. The Donald Trump/Carly Fiorina/Ben Carson phenomenon results from public rejection of entrenched male and female politicians giving politically correct rather than truthful answers to voters.

In other words, because until very recently business and politics have always been male dominated, both reflect male strengths. Male competitive business instincts that harm consumers lack feminine compassion and intuition. It places short-term corporate good ahead of long-term business survival.

Risk management that succeeds in the short-term but fails in the long-term means the competitive drive is too strong. The drive from a feminine security need is lacking.

For example, spending too much in the short term results in long-term cost-cutting. Such stupidity is unnecessary when the common sense of most housewives is applied. This is the male philosophy of cost effectiveness. No one understands cost efficiency better than women -- and there is a huge difference between cost efficiency and cost effectiveness.

Men understand cutting costs as a means to achieve economic objectives. They spend irresponsibly until economics causes them to rein in their appetites. When companies are cost efficient (the female security drive makes women save for tomorrow), the need to constantly cut costs is eliminated ... along with all of the human pain caused by the jobs that are eliminated as costs are cut.

If the business world functioned at an optimum level, it would work in concert with the laws of nature. Women would be encouraged to bring their natural talents to the corporate table. Their strengths would be integrated with male strengths and they would be appreciated.

Since the beginning of time, nature has created balance at the highest possible point of positive action by placing two equally strong forces in opposition to one another. In this case, male and female forces.

In such an environment, women’s femininity would be valued, not derided. Men would be encouraged to exercise their strengths (which are female weaknesses), and women would be encouraged to exercise their strengths (which are male weaknesses).

Instead, women leave their female strengths outside the doors of their offices each day. They compete with men whose strengths have traditionally set the standards for performance in the world of business.

Conservatives are always realistic and the fact is, women are newcomers to the world of business management. It is logical that when one group competes from a position of weaknesses with a group using its natural strengths, the group using its weaknesses to compete suffers a disadvantage. If feminists were a little less demeaning towards male strengths and a bit more appreciative of their own strengths, perhaps they would stop pretending to be men and learn how to be real women. It would certainly end the Let’s Pretend War Against Women -- especially the one being waged by progressive liberals. The one that wants to destroy natural feminine traits and replace them with what comes natural to men. They are so confused about their genetic identity, it’s frightening.

Can women walk into the world of business and demand to have their strengths written into next year’s corporate business plan? Of course not! They can, however, do what over one-third of America's business owners do: become independent business owners, hire and utilize male strengths in concert with their own, and set a successful business example the giants of commerce cannot ignore.

Additionally, they can avoid falling into the trap of forgetting their feminine strengths. When women avoid imitating men as the primary means of seeking equality while concurrently understanding and appreciating male strengths in the world of business and politics, they will be on the true road to equality. Moreover, while avoiding the loss of their feminine identities, they can gain respect for their strengths.

How? By making them work for the corporation. Gently ... as is the way with feminine women. We created the concept of an iron fist in a velvet glove. Ask any mother.


Wednesday, October 07, 2015


Thanks to Major General Paul Vallely for providing the following information:

Commanding Generals fired:
  General John R. Allen-U.S. Marines Commander International Security Assistance Force [ISAF] (Nov 2012)
  Major General Ralph Baker (2 Star)-U.S. Army Commander of the Combined Joint Task Force Horn in Africa (April 2013)
  Major General Michael Carey (2 Star)-U.S. Air Force Commander of the 20th US Air Force in charge of 9,600 people and 450 Intercontinental Ballistic Missiles (Oct 2013)
  Colonel James Christmas-U.S. Marines Commander 22nd Marine Expeditionary Unit & Commander Special-Purpose Marine Air-Ground Task Force Crisis Response Unit (July 2013)
  Major General Peter Fuller-U.S. Army Commander in Afghanistan (May 2011)
  Major General Charles M.M. Gurganus-U.S. Marine Corps Regional Commander of SW and I Marine Expeditionary Force in Afghanistan (Oct 2013)
  General Carter F. Ham-U.S. Army African Command (Oct 2013)
  Lieutenant General David H. Huntoon (3 Star), Jr.-U.S. Army 58th Superintendent of the US Military Academy at West Point, NY (2013)
  Command Sergeant Major Don B Jordan-U.S. Army 143rd Expeditionary Sustainment Command (suspended Oct 2013)
  General James Mattis-U.S. Marines Chief of CentCom (May 2013)
  Colonel Daren Margolin-U.S. Marine in charge of Quantico's Security Battalion (Oct 2013)
  General Stanley McChrystal-U.S. Army Commander Afghanistan (June 2010)
  General David D. McKiernan-U.S. Army Commander Afghanistan (2009)
  General David Petraeus-Director of CIA from September 2011 to November 2012 & U.S. Army Commander International Security Assistance Force [ISAF] and Commander U.S. Forces Afghanistan [USFOR-A] (Nov 2012)
  Brigadier General Bryan Roberts-U.S. Army Commander 2nd Brigade (May 2013)
  Major General Gregg A. Sturdevant-U.S. Marine Corps Director of Strategic Planning and Policy for the U.S. Pacific Command & Commander of Aviation Wing at Camp Bastion, Afghanistan (Sept 2013)
  Colonel Eric Tilley-U.S. Army Commander of Garrison Japan (Nov 2013)
  Brigadier General Bryan Wampler-U.S. Army Commanding General of 143rd Expeditionary Sustainment Command of the 1st Theater Sustainment Command [TSC] (suspended Oct 2013) 

Commanding Admirals fired:

  Rear Admiral Charles GaouetteU.S. Navy Commander John C. Stennis Carrier Strike Group Three (Oct 2012)
  Vice Admiral Tim Giardina(3 Star, demoted to 2 Star)-U.S. Navy Deputy Commander of the US Strategic Command, Commander of the Submarine Group Trident, Submarine Group 9 and Submarine Group 10 (Oct 2013)
Naval Officers fired: (All in 2011)
  Captain David Geisler-U.S. Navy Commander Task Force 53 in Bahrain (Oct 2011)
  Commander Laredo Bell-U.S. Navy Commander Naval Support Activity Saratoga Springs, NY (Aug 2011)
  Lieutenant Commander Kurt Boenisch-Executive Officer amphibious transport dock Ponce (Apr 2011)
  Commander Nathan Borchers-U.S. Navy Commander destroyer Stout (Mar 2011)
  Commander Robert Brown-U.S. Navy Commander Beachmaster Unit 2 Fort Story, VA (Aug 2011)
  Commander Andrew Crowe-Executive Officer Navy Region Center Singapore (Apr 2011)
  Captain Robert Gamberg-Executive Officer carrier Dwight D. Eisenhower (Jun 2011)
  Captain Rex Guinn-U.S. Navy Commander Navy Legal Service office Japan (Feb 2011)
  Commander Kevin Harms- U.S. Navy Commander Strike Fighter Squadron 137 aboard the aircraft carrier Abraham Lincoln (Mar 2011)
  Lieutenant Commander Martin Holguin-U.S. Navy Commander mine countermeasures Fearless (Oct 2011)
  Captain Owen Honors-U.S. Navy Commander aircraft carrier USS Enterprise (Jan 2011)
  Captain Donald Hornbeck-U.S. Navy Commander Destroyer Squadron 1 San Diego
(Apr 2011)
  Rear Admiral Ron Horton-U.S. Navy Commander Logistics Group, Western Pacific
(Mar 2011)
  Commander Etta Jones-U.S. Navy Commander amphibious transport dock Ponce (Apr 2011)
  Commander Ralph Jones-Executive Officer amphibious transport dock Green Bay (Jul 2011)
  Commander Jonathan Jackson-U.S. Navy Commander Electronic Attack Squadron 134, deployed aboard carrier Carl Vinson (Dec 2011)
  Captain Eric Merrill-U.S. Navy Commander submarine Emory S. Land (Jul 2011)
  Captain William Mosk-U.S. Navy Commander Naval Station Rota, U.S. Navy Commander Naval Activities Spain (Apr 2011)
  Commander Timothy Murphy-U.S. Navy Commander Electronic Attack Squadron 129 at Naval Air Station Whidbey Island, WA (Apr 2011)
  Commander Joseph Nosse-U.S. Navy Commander ballistic-missile submarine Kentucky (Oct 2011)
  Commander Mark Olson-U.S. Navy Commander destroyer The Sullivans FL (Sep 2011)
  Commander John Pethel-Executive Officer amphibious transport dock New York (Dec 2011)
  Commander Karl Pugh-U.S. Navy Commander Electronic Attack Squadron 141 Whidbey Island, WA (Jul 2011)
  Commander Jason Strength-U.S. Navy Commander of Navy Recruiting District Nashville, TN (Jul 2011)
  Captain Greg Thomas-U.S. Navy Commander Norfolk Naval Shipyard (May 2011)
  Commander Mike Varney-U.S. Navy Commander attack submarine Connecticut (Jun 2011)
  Commander Jay Wylie-U.S. Navy Commander destroyer Momsen (Apr 2011)
Naval Officers fired: (All in 2012):
  Commander Alan C. Aber-Executive Officer Helicopter Maritime Strike Squadron 71 (July 2012)
  Commander Derick Armstrong- U.S. Navy Commander missile destroyer USS The Sullivans (May 2012)
  Commander Martin Arriola- U.S. Navy Commander destroyer USS Porter (Aug 2012)
  Captain Antonio Cardoso- U.S. Navy Commander Training Support Center San Diego (Sep 2012)
  Captain James CoBell- U.S. Navy Commander Oceana Naval Air Station's Fleet Readiness Center Mid-Atlantic (Sep 2012)
  Captain Joseph E. Darlak- U.S. Navy Commander frigate USS Vandegrift (Nov 2012)
  Captain Daniel Dusek-U.S. Navy Commander USS Bonhomme
  Commander David Faught-Executive Officer destroyer Chung-Hoon (Sep 2012)
  Commander Franklin Fernandez- U.S. Navy Commander Naval Mobile Construction Battalion 24 (Aug 2012)
  Commander Ray Hartman- U.S. Navy Commander Amphibious dock-landing ship Fort McHenry (Nov 2012)
  Commander Shelly Hakspiel-Executive Officer Navy Drug Screening Lab San Diego (May 2012)
  Commander Jon Haydel- U.S. Navy Commander USS San Diego (Mar 2012)
  Commander Diego Hernandez- U.S. Navy Commander ballistic-missile submarine USS Wyoming (Feb 2012)
  Commander Lee Hoey- U.S. Navy Commander Drug Screening Laboratory, San Diego (May 2012)
  Commander Ivan Jimenez-Executive Officer frigate Vandegrift (Nov 2012)
  Commander Dennis Klein- U.S. Navy Commander submarine USS Columbia (May 2012)
  Captain Chuck Litchfield- U.S. Navy Commander assault ship USS Essex (Jun 2012)
  Captain Marcia Kim Lyons- U.S. Navy Commander Naval Health Clinic New England (Apr 2012)
  Captain Robert Marin- U.S. Navy Commander cruiser USS Cowpens (Feb 2012)
  Captain Sean McDonell- U.S. Navy Commander Seabee reserve unit Naval Mobile Construction Battalion 14 FL (Nov 2012)
  Commander Corrine Parker- U.S. Navy Commander Fleet Logistics Support Squadron 1 (Apr 2012)
  Captain Liza Raimondo- U.S. Navy Commander Naval Health Clinic Patuxent River, MD (Jun 2012)
  Captain Jeffrey Riedel- Program manager, Littoral Combat Ship program (Jan 2012)
  Commander Sara Santoski- U.S. Navy Commander Helicopter Mine Countermeasures Squadron 15 (Sep 2012)
  Commander Kyle G. Strudthoff-Executive Officer Helicopter Sea Combat Squadron 25 (Sep 2012) 
  Commander Sheryl Tannahill- U.S. Navy Commander Navy Operational Support Center [NOSC] Nashville, TN (Sep 2012)
  Commander Michael Ward- U.S. Navy Commander submarine USS Pittsburgh (Aug 2012)
  Captain Michael Wiegand- U.S. Navy Commander Southwest Regional Maintenance Center (Nov 2012)
  Captain Ted Williams- U.S. Navy Commander amphibious command ship Mount Whitney (Nov 2012)
  Commander Jeffrey Wissel- U.S. Navy Commander of Fleet Air Reconnaissance Squadron 1 (Feb 2012)
Naval Officers fired: (All in 2013):
  Lieutenant Commander Lauren Allen-Executive Officer submarine Jacksonville (Feb 2013)
  Reserve Captain Jay Bowman-U.S. Navy Commander Navy Operational Support Center [NOSC] Fort Dix, NJ (Mar 2013)
  Captain William Cogar-U.S. Navy Commander hospital ship Mercy's medical treatment facility (Sept 2013) 
  Commander Steve Fuller-Executive Officer frigate Kauffman (Mar 2013)
  Captain Shawn Hendricks-Program Manager for naval enterprise IT networks (June 2013)
  Captain David Hunter-U.S. Navy Commander of Maritime Expeditionary Security Squadron 12 & Coastal Riverine Group 2 (Feb 2013)
  Captain Eric Johnson-U.S. Navy Chief of Military Entrance Processing Command at Great Lakes Naval Training Center, IL (2013)
aptain Devon Jones-U.S. Navy Commander Naval Air Facility El Centro, CA (July 2013)
  Captain Kevin Knoop-U.S. Navy Commander hospital ship Comfort's medical treatment facility (Aug 2013)
  Lieutenant Commander Jack O'Neill-U.S. Navy Commander Operational Support Center Rock Island, IL (Mar 2013)
  Commander Allen Maestas-Executive Officer Beachmaster Unit 1 (May 2013)
  Commander Luis Molina-U.S. Navy Commander submarine Pasadena (Jan 2013)
  Commander James Pickens-Executive Officer frigate Gary (Feb 2013)
  Lieutenant Commander Mark Rice-U.S. Navy Commander Mine Countermeasures ship Guardian (Apr 2013)
  Commander Michael Runkle-U.S. Navy Commander of Mobile Diving and Salvage Unit 2 (May 2013)
  Commander Jason Stapleton-Executive Office Patrol Squadron 4 in Hawaii (Mar 2013)
  Commander Nathan Sukols-U.S. Navy Commander submarine Jacksonville (Feb 2013)
  Lieutenant Daniel Tyler-Executive Officer Mine Countermeasures ship Guardian (Apr 2013)
ommander Edward White-U.S. Navy Commander Strike Fighter Squadron 106 (Aug 2013)
  Captain Jeffrey Winter-U.S. Navy Commander of Carrier Air Wing 17 (Sept 2013)
  Commander Thomas Winter-U.S. Navy Commander submarine Montpelier (Jan 2013)
  Commander Corey Wofford- U.S. Navy Commander frigate Kauffman (Feb 2013)